Just So You Know

TO: My 2 Sweet Boys

FROM: Your Mom

DATE: June 1, 2009

RE: Just So You Know


Dear Boys:

Guess what? WE ARE ONE MONTH CLOSER TO DADDY COMING HOME!!!! Sorry, I didn’t mean to yell. It’s just that I know how excited we all are to have him back at home. It can’t come soon enough for any of us.

We all had a great time visiting daddy in Cuba last month. I am grateful for the chance to spend the week with daddy. That was certainly an added privilege none of us were expecting when we first heard about the deployment last April. God is good!

I’d like to start by saying the two of you are absolutely wearing me out. PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE! Stop. putting. foreign. nasty. dirty. germ infested objects. in. your. mouth! mkay? Thank you! I don’t know how much plainer I can be. There is some type of swine flu making its way throughout the country and as hard as I try, every single day one of ya’ll have something else in your mouth that shouldn’t be there. It is nasty and it is making me crazy.

Aside from that? Things are great.

The two of you generally play very well together and you are great friends.

I look at the two of you each day and thank God for making us a family. You are both so much fun. Both of you crack me up with some of the things you say and do. I am blessed and I never want to take the two of you for granted.

Love, Mommy


Dear Stevie:

I know that you love the Wii. Really I do. But, dang, I get tired of you asking me twenty thousand times a day if you can play the thing. There is nothing I would love more than to tell you that you can sit and veg out all the live, long, day. However, statistics (and probably CPS) suggest that might not be such a great idea. So please, can you just chill out. It ispossible to be at home and to live through an entire day without having your head stuck in a Wii, a DS or a computer game. Really. It is possible.

I am so sad that you are almost finished with kindergarten. It has been a horrible week for me coming to terms with the fact that you will soon be a big, first grader. You have talked at length about first grade and all it has to offer you. I know that you will do fine and that you and first grade will get along fabulously. You are growing up so quickly. I’d love to stop time for a few years months. You enjoyed kindergarten so much. I am thankful for Mrs. F. and Mrs. B. They are wonderful kindergarten teachers and I am so thankful that you had such an enjoyable year. I pray that you get an awesome first grade teacher too!

I love you, sweet boy!

Love, Mommy


Dear Alex:

I have seen a huge change in your behavior over the past few weeks. I am thankful that you and the temper tantrum are breaking ties. I know ya’ll were close friends. Believe me when I say there are other friends out there. Friends that will be better for you than the tantrum. Your time will be better spent doing other things. Things like giving mama a heart attack when you pull a stunt like this….

Or making me and daddy smile while we watch you “throw wocks in the creek”…..

You couldn’t care less about safety. I pray daily that God will protect you!!! It is so much fun to watch you run and explore. We will be talking a lot about pre-school during the next few months. I can’t believe it is almost that time.

You have cracked me up several times this month.

While we were in Cuba, Stevie asked you when your birthday was. You responded “Remember the first.”

[Your birthday is actually November the first]

Then, one night in church you whispered to me that you knew what Jesus’ last name was. When I asked you what it was, you responded, “Christ.” Then, you proceeded to ask me what his middle name was. A few minutes later, you looked up and asked me if God and Jesus were friends or “brudders.” That makes me smile, sweet boy. You are taking it all in.

I love you buddy!

Love, Mommy


  1. says

    Precious boys…the last part of the race is always the hardest…hang in there until daddy gets home.

    BTDT (Been There Done That) Department:

    When my boys were young and I could control most aspects of their tiny existences, this is how I handled the ‘media’ problema (media meaning tv, dvds,computer, and gaming).
    In the summer I had a points system. First, I made a list of things to do in various categories. Get your guys to help you with this list.
    Pause here for some suggestions (read a book, teach the dog a trick, do art, eat a popscicle, play in the sprinkler, build a lego creation, etc. It is as varied as your imagination and full of very fun suggestions. It was a list any momma would wish she could spend her day doing!)
    Secondly, assign a points system to each activity (along with an amount of time they have to spend doing the activity. I had one child who would routinely make his way down the list very quickly). Doing something outside and/or with a brother was always worth more points.Arguing and complaining and disobeying can also result in losing points.
    Thirdly, there was also a list of required stuff…no points given, just had to be done prior to the reward, Clean your room, do a household chore,etc.When my kids could read, reading became a required thing…but doing it outside in the tree house or in the hammock gave them points.
    Fourthly, adjustments have to be made as the system begins to work and as you the mom manipulate it to achieve your desired outcomes…ha. The poor little guys will never know for several years. They will think they are in control.
    Fifthly…the points system is FUN…not a chore. Who gets ‘points’ for eating a fudgescicle or having a picnic or swimming?

    Hope you like this suggestion. Let me know how it goes if you decide to try it!

  2. says

    Sweet! And, yes, what is it with putting things in the mouth??? My three year old, who NEVER DID SUCH A THING BEFORE, now has her fingers in her mouth fifty times a day. And then puts small objects in her mouth, too…the same small objects we’ve been letting her have since SHE NEVER PUTS THINGS IN HER MOUTH.

    Sorry. Didn’t mean to yell. 😉

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